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[I will be traveling from November 17-28th, so this post has been scheduled to publish in my absence. Please forgive my inability to reply to comments!]
A few mornings ago, I was sitting at my computer drinking my customary mug of tea when my fella, Mr. J, walked in and said, “So, are you doing that writing thing you do?”
I felt sheepish. I was not doing that writing thing I do, unless tapping out a stream of e-mails counts as such (it does not). “Uh, no,” I replied. “I had a bunch of e-mails to catch up on.”
Mr. J eyed me skeptically. “But your routine was to write first thing, before opening e-mail at all.” He paused. “Wasn’t it?”
“Yea…” I sighed dramatically before stumbling through an explanation of my-schedule-is-off-and-I-just-want-to-get-this-stuff-out-of-the-way-and-blah-blah-blah. But I wasn’t even convincing myself. I stopped talking, looked up at Mr. J, and then admitted it: “Thanks for holding me to what I said. I need that sometimes.”
Why Look for Accountability?
As I’ve mentioned before, I like change and challenges. I also have a lot of ideas. Put those together, and you end up with a lot of fun stuff on your plate. But for a lot of people like myself, motivation and discipline don’t come in constant, surging streams. They’re around a lot of the time, but sometimes they slip out the door.
Now, I’m all about giving yourself a break when you need it. I enjoy leisurely meals, plenty of traveling, and I’ve been known to overindulge with crosswords. The sticky areas arise when those breaks slowly creep into motivation and transform that motivation into a blasé pile of “eh” — when you start getting used to not doing that thing you care about.
I’m sure there are many lucky people who don’t know what it means to slip into “eh” mode. But for those of us who do, having someone give you a little kick in the behind can work wonders. When you care about sticking with a goal, a routine, or an idea, let someone know. Make that person hold you accountable.
How I’ve Found Accountability
This blog has been another excellent means of finding people to hold me accountable. When I started out, I posted my writing goals in the hopes that making a public announcement would keep me on my toes. Though my readership was quite modest, it meant there were at least a few people out there expecting me to keep my word. So I did.
More recently, Chuck Westbrook chose this blog to be featured for his as yet unnamed blog club. When I found out a few hundred people were going to be expecting good things from me, I got motivated pretty quickly. When you know someone’s keeping tabs, the incentive to perform is more obvious. Ideally, we rely on our own desire to create as our primary source of motivation. But since your desire and motivation can’t be on call 24/7, it can be extremely helpful to have someone holding you accountable.
Where to Find Accountability
It’s not very hard to find someone to hold you accountable. You’re basically giving someone full permission to nag you, call you out, and bust your balls. Who could resist? Seriously, though, the person you choose doesn’t really have to nag you or bust your balls. A gentle reminder is often enough to get you moving again.
Your accountability person can be a friend you meet for coffee every day. It can be your significant other, your mom, or even your cousin who lives across the country but Skypes you three times a week. But in order for this to work well, it should be someone who knows what matters to you. Someone you trust.
So, where could you use a bit of accountability in your life? Who do you turn to?
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